Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage: A Guide for Women Who Feel Deeply and Overthink
Overthinking, perfectionism, procrastination and people-pleasing can all be forms of self-sabotage. Here's why it happens and how to start working with it.
Personal coaching for women
You don't need to be perfect, or fully healed, to start living well.
Ashlie helps women spot the patterns keeping them stuck, work with their fear instead of waiting for it to go, and take real steps towards a life that feels like their own.
Who it's for
For the woman who knows she has more to give
You might be creative, ambitious, sensitive, entrepreneurial or deeply self-aware. You've read the books, you understand your patterns, and you still find yourself:
- Replaying conversations and overthinking every decision
- Saying yes when you mean no, and resenting it later
- Holding back until it's perfect, then not starting at all
- Caring a lot (too much?) about what other people think
- Doubting yourself, even when the evidence says you're capable
- Feeling stressed, overwhelmed or running on empty
- Unsure about your career, or wanting to create something of your own
- Feeling stuck, and knowing life could feel very different
What the work looks like
Understood, but not let off the hook
Ashlie's clients often say the same thing: they feel deeply understood, and they're also challenged. She won't simply agree with the story that's keeping you stuck. Together you'll look honestly at three things:
- Where you are now, without judgement.
- Where you really want to be, by your definition of success, not anyone else's.
- What's getting in the way: the beliefs, habits and fears underneath the pattern.
From there it's practical. You'll learn tools to notice and change unhelpful thinking, calm your stress response, set boundaries and act before you feel completely ready. Confidence tends to grow from that action, not the other way round.
Ways to work together
Choose the level of support that suits you
Every option is built around The Transformation Process. You can work through it on your own, or with Ashlie alongside you. Payment plans are available.
The Transformation Process
A self-paced online programme combining hypnosis, CBT techniques and coaching, with a private community of women. 6 months access.
£297
About the programme1:1 coaching & mentoring
The programme plus 3, 6 or 9 one-to-one sessions: healing and hypnotherapy, coaching, and business mentoring at the highest level.
From £997 · payment plans available
Compare 1:1 optionsWorkshops & group sessions
Small group sessions in and around London that combine guided meditation, hypnotherapy, attention training and active listening.
Dates announced as they're scheduled
About workshopsStart here
The free consultation
The quickest way to find out if you're a good fit is a call. It's 30 minutes on Zoom, or by phone if you prefer. Ashlie will ask where you are, what you're coming up against and what you want to change. Then you'll talk through the options that might help. Whatever you decide, you should come away with more clarity.
Client stories
In their words
Ashlie’s programme and 1-on-1 coaching is the real deal; I am beyond grateful for the support, guidance and love she has given me and the lessons I’ll keep in my pocket tightly. Three words how I would describe working with Ashlie: healing, inspiring and creative!
It has honestly changed my life so much, from the first day. I’ve felt light, strong and open ever since. You’ve changed my perspective for the better — on everything! From success and money to friendships and self-love.
I had done so much work on myself before meeting Ashlie, but she really has pushed me to integrate all the work into my bones.
The energy I bring to everything in my life is so different — I am no longer forcing, controlling, fixing, pushing. I am able to receive. I am able to self-soothe.
Ashlie showed me you don’t have to be driven by an unconscious fear — you can be in control of your actions!
Questions
Good to know
Do I need to be in London?
No. Coaching is available online, and in person by arrangement. The Transformation Process is fully online.
Do I have to believe in manifestation or energy work?
No. Ashlie does draw on ideas like intention, energy and manifestation, and she's open that these are part of her personal philosophy rather than established science. The practical, psychological tools work whether or not those ideas resonate with you.
What if I'm not ready?
Most people don't feel ready. What matters is that you want to change and you're willing to show up, take responsibility and practise between sessions. It doesn't have to take long, but it does take practice.
Are payment plans or scholarships available?
Monthly instalment plans are available for all 1:1 options. Partial scholarships are available for people on low or limited incomes. Ask for an application form.
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Ready to stop overthinking and start moving?
Book a free 30-minute call, or go straight to The Transformation Process.